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I longed for novels about female desire - women empowered by sex and their expressions of lust. So I sat down and wrote my own.
T he idea for my novel Insatiable emerged from a simple question: where were all the horny women? I knew that we were secretly legion. In fact, I suspected that I was surrounded by women, sitting on buses, standing in queues, staring out of the window and simultaneously entertaining all kinds of filthy daydreams.
After all, millions of us had bought and read Fifty Shades of Grey. Even if half the sold copies were bought by people who wanted to mock it, that left millions of genuinely horny women uned for — and buying the sequels. I was not transported in the way I had hoped; I did not find Christian sexy, I did not relish the BDSM and, most of all, I struggled to connect with the beautiful, blank lead character, Anastasia.
She seemed similar to every other sort-of-horny woman I had seen on screen, a sexual object before she was a sexual subject, a person who had to be perfect and Sex women Buchanan herself desirable before she was allowed to pursue desires of her own. In the years that followed, I often thought of Fifty Shades of Grey — and whether there were other women, like me, who felt underserved.
I remembered, at 16, being certain that this was a stealthily sexy story. There is an undercurrent of tension, a hinting of a dark and problematic past.
What if this were made explicit? But what if a young woman found those cravings overwhelming, uncontainable — and that her desire made her desirable? While my mind was racing with these possibilities, the sky turned dark and the news was full of stories of sexual violence.
Numerous women, including a of high-profile actors, courageously shared their experience of abuse and exploitation. There Sex women Buchanan a feeling of change in the air, a public reckoning, a long overdue call for justice. But I was starting to understand why horny women were hiding. What chance did we have? When sex is weaponised and stories of sex are so often accompanied by stories of violence, it felt as if there was nowhere for us to express desire freely or safely. Dealing with this was, of course, a matter of urgency. So I hid away and wrote my own, mostly for my own amusement.
When Insatiable was submitted to publishers, many found the explicit sex off-putting and that was after my agent made me take out the threesome I originally introduced on the second .
Yet, over the course of its journey, it has found itself in exciting company. That seems Sex women Buchanan. The bliss of a book is that each reader can tailor their vision to their specifications. Reading is an intimate experience — it is much harder to exclude someone from a story when it is their own imagination that brings it to life. When we see sex on screen, we are much more likely to be seeing a limited interpretation of sexiness, where so many bodies and experiences go unrepresented.
But things are changing. The Bridgerton universe is written for readers to escape to, rather than relate to. But the success of the series, with its clever referencing, indicates that we are keen on a little reality with our fantasy. In the TV classic FriendsRachel Green long established as conventionally desirable, before she expressed desire is caught reading a dirty book — and when she is teased about a vicar, we are led to believe that the story is a historical romance.
For a long time, many of the sexy stories written for women, or by women, have been labelled genre fiction. If vicars or vampires get you hot under the collar, all power to your elbow. When they read historical fiction, horny women can hide in plain sight. The contemporary literature that we are reaching for has sex at its centre. The content is not implied coyly by a heaving bodice on the cover. However, there would Sex women Buchanan be no Insatiable without Jilly Cooper. The bonkbusters of the 80s were responsible for my sentimental sex education.
Like millions of readers, I fell in love with every aspect of the universe Cooper created. The glamour was wholly intoxicating, yet the cosiness she conjured up was even more seductive. They worry about their weight, get spots before important occasions, go to parties and feel underdressed and outclassed.
Yet they still get the guy — and their orgasms. More often than not, their sexual confidence is based on their own enthusiasm, and they find more happiness in the bedroom than anywhere else. Of course, horny women have existed in literature for thousands of years.
The Wife of Bath was brought into being in the 14th century and might be the most famous example of a troubling literary motif — the Loathly Lady, an unattractive woman rendered desirable by male attention. Chaucer set the tone. A glad glance from an errant knight and specs, bets and knickers are off, and the curse of ugliness is lifted. But maybe it is time to lift a different literary curse and challenge the male gaze for good. It is time to understand that horny heroines are quiet radicals.
If they can inspire readers to seek pleasure in our bedrooms, they can start a revolution. I want to live in a world where everyone can lust out loud and where any person can voice their longing without being laughed at or ignored, or made Sex women Buchanan feel vulnerable. We are still far from an era of sexual safety, but maybe, eventually, life will imitate art. For now, horny women can see themselves in print, and embrace and celebrate their urges in a place of safety.
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The return of the bonkbuster: how horny heroines are starting a new sexual revolution